A Lesson learnt this week

Actually I belong to a close knit family where each of our cousins are like real brothers and sisters.And being the younger one I troubled them a lot (Not now) . Once I became matured I started learning many things from each one of them. It really helped me to become a better individual as different people in our family have different great Qualities. I try to emulate the qualities which could bring me closer to my goals

One of cousin s father was not keeping well and a great gentleman who has got a lot of respect from my grand father and other relatives. A certain type of skin infection did not give the leeway to spend some more time in the earth. He is a man who listens and respects everyone  and gives them the best possible help from his end.

We had to make a quick travel plan , My entire family has to travel down to Chennai to participate in the last rites.

We were Unsuccessful in finding out the cause of this incident !

Why him !

This has been  constantly asked by my father for some of the incidents  happened during his lifetime!

As usual we don't find any convincing answer here also .

Finding answer going to be a very tedious task Instead we can concentrate on things which are under our control (My manager keeps telling )

We generally never understand the seriousness of life like how seneca says:

On Shortness of life - Seneca , Book Link  I have read some part of the book and using the highlight option from my kindle , Just reproducing some text from that book and if you are someone who would like to appreciate the life better than mere living i would recommend a read

True words:

"It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it. "

Why there is no satisfaction

"Many are occupied by either pursuing other people’s money or complaining about their own. Many pursue no fixed goal, but are tossed about in ever-changing designs by a fickleness which is shifting, inconstant and never satisfied with itself." 

Wealth and Lifetime Comparision

"Just as when ample and princely wealth falls to a bad owner it is squandered in a moment, but wealth however modest, if entrusted to a good custodian, increases with use, so our lifetime extends amply if you manage it properly."

Time is important than money

"People are frugal in guarding their personal property; but as soon as it comes to squandering time they are most wasteful of the one thing in which it is right to be stingy."

Great men Qualities as per Seneca

"Believe me, it is the sign of a great man, and one who is above human error, not to allow his time to be frittered away"

Thought process

"You act like mortals in all that you fear, and like immortals in all that you desire."

The below one looks more like Steve Jobs Statement

"Everyone hustles his life along, and is troubled by a longing for the future and weariness of the present. But the man who spends all his time on his own needs, who organizes every day as though it were his last, neither longs for nor fears the next day"


We keep saying Life is short , As per seneca Life is short for certain people

"But life is very short and anxious for those who forget the past, neglect the present, and fear the future"


I here resort to write down the goals and stay more focused during the time we are in this world and try to follow certain ground rules so that by the time we leave people remember us for the values we followed and the help offered.

I thought of certain points on seeing a Quick demise of my close relative

•  Help everyone as much as possible , In my case i would like to offer educational assistance to some kids from certain organisations ,  Physically going and helping is far more better. 
•  Be more kind to everyone
•  Spend Quality time with near and dear ones , Cut down your social media time 
• Take small vacations whenever possible with family.
• No need to give up on personal goals telling family goals have to be achieved . 
• all are important (Run one HM per year , Do the proper training and progress in that )
• Don't allow laziness to creep in , Act fast to move towards your goal.
• Life is going to be short. Set up goals and move faster
• Write down all financial things and share it with the family members
• Finally be Spiritually inclined , meditate for 10 mts a day . Self analyse auto correct as much as possible.Visit a temple once in a week. Sandhyavandhanam, Gayatri Mantram, Hanuman Chalisa ,Vishnu sahasranam , Sri Rudram, Chamakam all which can be Continuously practiced. Ask Questions and get clarity. 
• Kill the ego while going to the graveyard you wont be carrying yours!
• Exercise 15 mts to half an hour every day (Instead of social media)

By following all try to become a life long learner 

There are certain videos which I saw on YouTube  regarding to life

Video 1:

Living a full complete life , what all required

A short note:

Wealth includes many components not only money.

A good life needs money, People to support you , and you should be like a rain ,candle (help others)

and ice cream analogy. (Enjoy the life before it melts)

Video 2:

Quit Social media by Carl port, (This month gonna try this )

Three things people who are afraid to Quit social media claim as per Carl port and his counter argument (Better see that video)

Claim No:1. Social media is a fundamental technology - No it is not.

Claim No:2 Anyone who would not use social media may become obsolete and may not have a good job prospects

One of the wonderful explanation given by carl port for this claim was people were paid for their skills which could create a value and not easily doable by everyone. This social media does not do any skill enhancement (A 10 year old guy could do that ) ,  instead it actually does the reverse( it depletes the concentration level of the person) and our amount of work done decreases as we involve more in social media. (Basically attention span , focus gets reduced )

Claim No:3. Finally social media is harmless , Just for fun

Adding to the above cited reasons this also can be included how it makes you feel lonely and getting you a feeling that you lack something on your life between your peers on seeing their photos/Status.

Life without social media is not at all bad as per carl port , he stresses many people to actually try it and earn market rewarding skills and live a peaceful old way of living .

Cheers !


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